The Partner Project
Speaker: Ted Bunch, Activist, Educator, Co-founder, A Call to Men on January 29, 2014 from 5 p.m. - 7 p.m. at the Madison Theatre. Free admission and this event is open to the public. For information email email@example.com.
The Partner Project is about people developing relationships built on respect, patience and dignity. We believe healthy relationships support personal growth and safety which transcends into a life of meaning filled with many opportunities for success. The Partner Project at Molloy College is a collaborative effort to raise awareness about relationship violence and through education, research and dialogue; we hope to create a safe learning environment. The Partner Project is dedicated to those individuals who suffer in silence due to relationship violence and to break the silence associated with relationship violence.
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On and Off-campus Resources
- Student Counseling
- Student Affairs
- Campus Ministries
- Public Safety
- Rockville Centre Police Department: 516.766.1501
- Nassau County Police: Dial 911
- Department of Justice: Office on Violence Against Women
- Nassau Coalition against Domestic Violence
If you feel uncomfortable, please get to a safe place; dial 911 if off campus or if on campus dial 11 from any campus phone or call Public Safety at 516.323.3500. For more information about The Partner Project or topics presented here contact: John Amodeo, Assistant Director of Public Safety in Kellenberg Circle at 516.323.3504 or email: firstname.lastname@example.org or you may contact Teresa Aprigliano, Associate Dean Nursing in Casey Room 219 at 516.323.3659 or email email@example.com.
Did You Know - Important Information
Many terms (domestic violence, battering, intimate partner violence, spousal abuse and dating violence) have been coined to name the pattern of coercive and abusive behavior employed by one partner in a relationship to gain power and control over the other partner. The term relationship violence is inclusive and includes all types of personal relationships (husband-wife, boyfriend-girlfriend, girlfriend-girlfriend, boyfriend-boyfriend, domestic partner, civil unions and parent-child) regardless of sexual identity or orientation.
What is Relationship Violence?
According the United State Department of Justice's Office on Violence Against Women relationship violence is a pattern of physical, sexual, economic and/or psychological abuse or the threat of abuse used to get and maintain control over another person.
Did you know about these resources?
- Nassau County Coalition Against Domestic Violence at their 24 hour hotline: 516.542.0404.
- Suffolk County Coalition Against Domestic Violence at their 24 hour hotline: 631.666.8833.
- National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at their 24 hour hotline: 800.799.safe(7233).
What are the signs of abuse?
Physical abuse: pushing, hitting, choking, kicking, biting, cutting, burning, spitting, throwing things at you, locking you in or out of the house, endangering you by driving wildly or recklessly.
Psychological abuse: ignoring feelings, criticizing beliefs, threatening to take or hurt your children, manipulating and lying, degrading women, name calling, making you feel inferior, isolating from friends and family, threatening to leave or make you leave someone, threatening to hurt a loved one or family member, hurting your children or pets, hiding or re-locating personal items such as: cell phone, car keys, checkbook, money, important personal papers.
Economic abuse: refusing to give money for food, clothing or essential items, making you ask for money, forcing you to hand over money that you earn, not letting you have access to a checking account, not letting you be involved in making decisions about money.
Sexual abuse: treating you like a sex object, thinking that you will have sex with anyone, forcing you to have sex, calling you a "whore" or other derogatory names after sex, unwanted or uncomfortable touching, forcing you to have sex then telling you that "you wanted it", bragging about sex with other people, searching for signs that you have had sex with someone.
Who is affected by relationship violence? Although men can be survivors of relationship violence, women are typically the ones affected by it. Women of all religions, socio-economic backgrounds, educational backgrounds and of different ages and disabilities may experience relationship violence.
Do You Know - Personal Safety
- Intuition: follow the advice you would give to a loved one.
- Tell someone of your concerns or situation.
- Know limits (sexual, relationship and alcohol perspective).
- Awareness of surroundings - be alert.
- If you believe you are being abused, stalked, harassed---- tell someone immediately.
- Never ever leave your cup or plate unattended. If you do, get another one.
- Be selective who you give your phone number to.
- If you feel uncomfortable, please get to a safe place; dial 911 if off campus or if on campus dial 11 from any campus phone or call public safety at 516.323.3500
Do You Know - Media
Circle of Six: With Circle of 6, you can connect with your friends to stay close, stay safe. The Circle of 6 app for iPhone and Android makes it quick and easy to reach the 6 friends you choose. Need help getting home? Need an interruption? Two touches tells your circle where you are and how they can help.
How do I help a friend? Be there: your presence is what will matter most! A calm, safe and reassuring environment is important. You will need to be patient, your friend may be embarrassed or guarded and it may take a while before your friend feels safe enough to leave the relationship. It is also very important not to impose your will on your friend. It is natural to want a 'quick' solution and therefore we may inadvertently say, "Just leave him or her." That very statement may not have the desired outcome. Remember: Everyone is different. There isn't any one single solution.
- Listen. Being there to help means supporting his/her choices.
- Tell him/her the perpetrator is responsible for the behavior.
- Help him/her see possible choices and alternatives.
- Provide information about counseling and other resources both on and off campus.
Sharing Can Help
Sharing a piece of oneself creates a bond with others who may be in a similar situation. The power of a personal connection helps you realize you are not alone and we can learn from one another. We would like to hear from you. Please share your thoughts, stories, insights or ways we can help you. We are interested in you and value your story. All information will remain confidential and will be kept private. Remember, we care about you and are here to help. Send a confidential email with your thoughts to John Amodeo (firstname.lastname@example.org) or Teresa Aprigliano (email@example.com).
The Partner Project, in collaboration with student clubs, has events scheduled for the Spring semester that will continue to shine a light on Relationship Violence: (additional information will be posted)
- Breaking The Silence: A Partner Project event. Speaker: Ted Bunch, Activist, Educator, Co-founder, A Call to Men on January 29, 2014 5 p.m. - 7 p.m. at the Madison Theatre. Free admission and this event is open to the public. For information email firstname.lastname@example.org.
- March 31 - April 3, 2014: The Red Flag campaign
- April 4, 2014 Take Back the Night: Together As One