Bystander Culture

Resources:

On campus, dial 11 from a campus phone for Public Safety or call directly at 516.323.3500.  Contact Personal Counseling Center at 516.323.3484 or Teresa Aprigliano at 516.323.3659.

Off campus, dial 911 for police or  The Safe Center of Long Island at their 24 hour hotline   516.542.0404

Suffolk County Coaliton Against Domestic Violence at their 24 hour hotline  631.666.8833 

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at their 24 hour hotline  800.799 SAFE (7233)

Love is Respect 

How do I help a friend?
Be there!
Your presence is what matters most! A calm, safe and reassuring environment is important. You will need to be patient. Your friend may be embarrassed or guarded and it may take a while before they feel safe enough to leave the relationship. It is also very important not to impose your will on your friend. It is natural to want a 'quick' solution and therefore we may inadvertently say, "Just leave him or her."  That very statement may not have the desired outcome. Remember, everyone is different. There isn't a single solution.

  • Listen. Being there to help means supporting their choices.
  • Tell them the perpetrator is responsible for the behavior.
  • Help them see possible choices and alternatives.
  • Provide information about counseling and other resources both on and off campus.